Reply Hi Judith, reading your post made me slightly nervous That’s because I’ve been with my fiance for over 5 years & your story made me wonder if my relationship will end the same way?
Right now I’m in her homeland where I’ve been living for over 5 years. When you ask God for someone to Love as I did I was thinking of a beautiful person within my race but God gave me what I asked for and what he thought so needed and the same goes for you all. Of your worrying about how someone views your spouse then don’t get married . Thank you for bringing God into this picture of people’s lives.
I’m planning to return to the States soon & apply for a fiance or K-1 visa. We don’t look at dogs and say ewww it’s from Germany ! And as my book reads a flower in the city which is about this very same topic . Marriage is for the devoted and strong and the ones who found that special someone to share life with and love no matter the circumstances ! We are still young and we all go to bed saying I love you and I tell my kids the reason why some people are bullies is because they aren’t happy at home ! I too asked God to send someone but he was not from America. Reply Your viewpoint on the international marriages is profoundness.
I happen to have an immigration attorney friend whose been warning me of the high failure rate between Dominican & American marriages. Your kids will be more understanding to others and less racist ! With animals we think owww how cute but with humans we can’t even look each other in the eye if our color/looks are different ! If they were they wouldn’t care about what others are doing specially if they are happy . Don’t worry so much about who you marry but why you are marrying ! I totally trust God’s decision on who He found for me. Yes with the love and respect between both of you is more important. The Asian cultures have more disciplined on the children of learning and to become sussessful. We had a lot deferent appinions but the end of the day we try to take what ever it is right and common sense. International marriage certainly is difficult, as is marriage in general, but it becomes especially difficult when your partner’s theory of integration means “think, eat, breath like you’re one them”. I have learned many things from him, and there are so many things I like/prefer about living here, but I suspect that I have never been able to teach my partner anything; that perhaps there is another way of dealing then the manner derived from his cultural background.
Aaaand, keep the kids other language (thank`s god they are completely bilingual), which will be quite a bit of a challenge for me, who has learnt it, but not a native speaker of that language, and now nobody around me speaks it.We’ll hope to work out college and retirement as best we can. At least one set of grandparents is always far away. Or will we let our children decide based on where they are living?Our children will never be able to have both sets of grandparents living nearby. Skype is a wonderful thing but it still doesn’t replace spending time with real, live grandparents, aunts and uncles. And here is one more general question: Where will we be buried when we die? Many of us know the answer already while others have no idea.And it is a good thing because I would have killed the bastard! We first met in California and started dating also lived together for three years in California and that was 17 years ago . So the kids are extremely lucky to have both sets of grandparents only a short drive away. ) but my husband suffers a lot in missing his family in Brazil (we visit them once a year for a month at a time). Having said all of this, looking back I would probably do it again …I hate any male that even raises his voice at a woman let alone hurts one! I was actually searching for something else and I read 10 reasons why not to marry …… We have been married for 16 years next month is our anniversary:). I still miss my home country, although I’m sure it’s changed so much now I wouldn’t feel at home if I went back. Reply Dear Wendy, I am happy that you are so understanding to visit his family so often. all of the points listed are very well known to me …